GRRM trusts that the readers are smart enough to figure this stuff out. Which is probably a super over-estimation on his part, judging by ask.
An unreliable narrator is a narrator, whether in literature, film, or theatre, whose credibility has been seriously compromised.
Stockholm syndrome, or capture-bonding, is a psychological phenomenon in which hostages express empathy and sympathy and have positive feelings toward their captors, sometimes to the point of defending and identifying with them. These feelings are generally considered irrational in light of the danger or risk endured by the victims.
Maybe Dany x Drogo shippers should just deal with the fact that they’re shipping a rape victim with her rapist.
Jesus Christ. This is not about canon vs not-canon. This is about perspective, and how getting a perspectival experience through a limited third person POV means you get a version of accounts filtered through someone’s headspace. Yes, all of the POV accounts in ASOIAF are canon (which is about the most tautological thing to say, so congrats)—they’re also obviously unreliable in the most human way, showcasing every person’s ability to hold cognitively dissonant opinions about their own lives at all times.
Dany in particular has the one of the most cognitively dissonant POV about her own experiences—she recognizes that she was sold as a slave, but because that slavery ultimately led to a position of relative power through a sexual relationship, she romanticizes the relationship itself. Because she finally has agency in her life, even if it is a paradoxical agency. That she conflates the source of her agency with her rapist makes sense, and does nothing to change that he is, in fact, her rapist. And on a more troubling level, this persistent idea—it’s not rape because the victim doesn’t name it as rape—does violence to victims everywhere, contributing to a narrative of assault that allows perpetrators to prey on victims who “should know better” or “allow it to happen.” A child that is physically or emotionally abused might not have the language to describe what is happening to them as abuse, but it does not change it as abuse. Similarly, the world of ASOIAF doesn’t have the language to speak of coercive rape—but we do. We can recognize an act for what it is, even if the character herself cannot. This is the power of fiction—a call to recognize the truth of a situation beyond the limited perspectival accounts given.
"She was scarcely a year older than I was, dark-haired, slender, with a face that would break your heart. It certainly broke mine. Lowborn, half-starved, unwashed… Yet lovely. […] She was hungrier than I would have believed. We finished two whole chickens and part of a third, and drank a flagon of wine, talking. I was only thirteen, and the wine went to my head, I fear. The next thing I knew, I was sharing her bed. If she was shy, I was shyer. I’ll never know where I found the courage. When I broke her maidenhead, she wept, but afterward she kissed me and sang her little song, and by morning I was in love."
A game of forgotten ladies: Tysha
I am so, so pleased to see this line because it captures an experience I’ve never seen captured in fiction—the experience of forgetting and remembering your disability. I’ve been physically disabled my entire life, and there are honestly times when I forget that I’m disabled, when I’m so caught up in something—emotion, work, friendship, etc—that I forget how broken and bedraggled my body objectively is and my disability fades into the background of my consciousness. And then on the flipside, there are times when my disability and my awareness of it slams into me like a load of bricks, when I’m reminded of all I can’t do, of what people so often see when they look at me. My crippledness is static; my acute awareness of it is not.
Tyrion lives in world where he is almost always judged and demeaned due to his disability, but even in Westeros, I do think there are probably times when he does, in brief instances, forget what the world sees him as—subhuman, deformed, useless, an imp. Tyrion, for all the world tries to deny it, is useful and talented and, above all, human, and he actively works for moments where people can see that as much as or more than they can see his disability and perhaps in those moments, when he finally gets to be a ruler or a Lannister or a husband or a friend, he is able to forget, just for a moment, that he is called “the imp” fair more often than he is called by his own name. He is allowed simply to be him, to be human. This doesn’t mean, of course, that Tyrion ever stops being a dwarf, but just that his disability and all it brings with it is not forced to the forefront of his self-conceptualization.
And then we have moments like the one above, where the opposite is true. Tyrion is painfully aware that when his father sees him, all he sees—all he will ever see—is a useless, disfigured imp who he openly wishes he had killed. And so in those moments, that is what Tyrion sees, too—all the weaknesses of his body that will forever prevent his father from seeing him as anything but a bastard. It hurts, and it hurts all the more because of all those moments when Tyrion might see himself as something other than that, because you can’t have light without darkness but you also can’t have darkness without light. Thank goodness that Tywin Lannister probably doesn’t know this, because he might just use it to hurt his son all the more.
I’m not trying to be rude, anon, but I’m gonna quote part of my post which addresses your question.
Not that Tyrion has to be as good-looking as Peter Dinklage to be a worthwhile character. There’s nothing wrong with an ugly Tyrion. But I think it does say something about people’s perceptions about what a person with dwarfism is supposed to look like that some people consider fan drawings that make Tyrion look more like a caricature than a human being to be more “realistic” than actual person with dwarfism Peter Dinklage.
I don’t think book Tyrion is necessarily as attractive as Peter Dinklage, because let’s be real here, Peter Dinklage is a very attractive man. Tyrion might be just average looking. Hell, he might even be ugly. But people don’t say that he’s ugly. They say that he’s grotesque. His ugliness is hugely exaggerated by both fans and characters in the books. The insistence that Tyrion can’t look like an average person who just happens to have dwarfism is what I object to. People read “disabled” and they think Quasimodo or (and yes, I have heard this one in relation to Tyrion) Gollum from LOTR. I’m sorry, but no.
"GRRM said Tyrion is uglier than Peter Dinklage."
GRRM also said the Dornish were from Spain :/
I’m a late adopter to Game of Thrones, but I’ve brought all my game to the yard; I find this show utterly fascinating and compelling, even as it’s ripe with material to analyse. At the same time that the scope of the world is amazing and the worldbuilding is immense, epic, and beautiful, it’s also misogynistic, rapey, and horrific. Even as I love the characters, I get frustrated that so many of…
Prayers to all of the people in that town. This is bullshit anyone is treated like this. It is fucking 2014 get ur shit together.
"We all bleed red but whos blood is in the streets?"
Jon Arryn’s chain of office necklace. Apparently in Jon Arryn wears this on his funeral bier, it was a half a meter long bronze chain, more here